You like that Ruger 1911..? I’ve seen a Ruger fan since the Blackhawk 45LC/45acp. I could consider the Ruger 1911 9mm.. something I should think about.I have a lightweight Ruger 9mm 1911 Commander, and it is a pleasure to shoot. It and my Pro Carry HDII 38 Super are comparable in function, recoil and accuracy -- which basically means they are both fantastic!!
I find that standard pressure 147 grain 9mm rounds are softer shooting in my carry guns than 124+p's -- you might want to try different ammo as well as different calibers.
My Commander size 45's, which are all steel, mostly shoot like my full size 1911's.